Part of the inner work of healing is examining our family of origin. An idealized view of one’s childhood is never helpful. If you are open to acknowledging the difficulties of your family during childhood, you will be able to heal and even one day appreciate the good points of your family as well. One common fear that keeps us from facing our family-of-origin disappointments is the fear of losing sight of the good, and indeed, we can temporarily lose appreciation for our families, but when the healing progresses, we again see the good in even sharper focus than before, and we truly understand the limited soil in which the good took root. We emerge from our healing with a balanced view of our family life rather than a one-sided view of either good or bad. But we also emerge with compassion on ourselves for all we went through or missed out on, honoring ourselves as survivors of confusing dysfunction.
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