Sometimes, a loved on or our inner voice keeps scolding us to “get over it,” to get healed and forgive, to rush the process. Do not listen. The psyche of individuals and of dysfunctional family systems are so complex, confusing, and multi-layered that our emotional healing can easily take decades. “Love is patient,” begins the famous chapter in the Bible. “Patience is the essence of love,” wrote Joshua Choonmin Kang. We show love to ourselves by giving ourselves all the time we need to heal. And our loved ones, once they begin the healing journey, will finally understand why “Get over it” is an insensitive and harsh admonition to a hurting and seeking soul.
Physician, Get Healed 