We live in a time of widespread scapegoating in which we blame or accuse others of causing our distress. This starts in families who choose one member to bear the blame for all their unhappiness. Rebecca C. Mandeville, who coined the term “family scapegoating abuse (FSA),” has excellent You Tube videos to help you understand the tremendous and tragic ramifications of labelling one person as the problem person. Mary Toolan’s You Tube videos on scapegoat child recovery are also extremely helpful. Don’t miss an opportunity to learn about this form of abuse, because even if your family has no legacy of scapegoating, plenty of others do.
The opposite of scapegoating is to take responsibility for our own emotional distress whenever we are triggered by another person. We can acknowledge our emotional pain and also seek to be healed from it rather than delaying our healing by focusing negatively and excessively on another person.
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