Healthy relationships are possible only if each person takes responsibility for his or her own distress. Even if another person triggers our unpleasant emotions, we have the responsibility and the privilege of discerning what emotions are surfacing and why. As adults, we get to take the time to analyze our own distress and discern any false perceptions that are contributing to our distress.
As we discover the roots of our unpleasant emotions and get healed, we can then assert a healthy power in our relationships to insist on healthier dynamics, including the relationships with those who were triggering us.
Physician, Get Healed 